One of the greatest things to happen to me in the last couple of years was the introduction of new people into my life. For the first time in many years I have had the time to nurture new friendships. Each of these friends came to me based on a commonality in our lives, such as similar occupations, time schedules that seem to gel and in a couple of cases, sharing of life circumstances – such as dealing with a chronic medical problem.
The great thing about new friends is that they know you as you are now. This is so important for someone whose circumstances, whether physical, emotional or personal have brought changes in how they live their life or view the world. Sometimes these changes are hard for people who have been part of one’s life for a long time to accept and/or understand, unless they have followed a similar path.
For new friends, every story and tidbit of history shared has never been heard before. Telling each other stories about one’s childhood, family and school years lend valuable insight into each others psyche. I love hearing stories about the places they have traveled, what kind of work they do or did and of course stories about spouses, children and grandchildren. It’s especially fun to find out that you know the same person or people, frequent the same places and love to do the same thing.
New friends mean that you can start from scratch – no preconceived notions. The relationship can be mutually defined. I’ve always had a hard time making friends, but the difference now is that I don’t wait for someone to come to me. I think we all have some insecurities when it comes to approaching someone to “have coffee” the first time, but it’s worth the try because finding someone who wants to have a friendship with you as much as you with them – feels great!
A friend is a present you give yourself. Robert Louis Stevenson
- How Making Friends Can Help Depression (everydayhealth.com)
- Real friends are hard to make (jasmineyow.wordpress.com)
- What do friends mean to you? (eslschoolforenglish.wordpress.com)