I think it is safe to say that when we wake up each the morning, we have some sense of how the next twenty-four hours will transpire. Most days are pretty routine. We are startled awake by the sound of the alarm buzzing in our ear, a radio announcer discussing the traffic or in my case a whining dog. Whether we are ready to or not, it’s time to get up and start the day. Morning routines can become somewhat robotic in nature: go to the bathroom, shower, dress, eat breakfast and head out the door to work. Obviously, the order in which these tasks are done varies among persons and may include other items such as working out, packing a lunch or walking the dog. We depend on these routines to jump-start our day and energize us for the hours ahead. No matter how mundane the routine may be, we can depend on it.
Unfortunately, there are also those days that don’t go quite so smoothly, we over sleep, the car won’t start or we can’t find our glasses. Everyone has had those days, they tend to make one feel somewhat “off'” all day. Routines can provide us with so much comfort, that any diversion from routine can lead to a host of emotions. Emotions such as anger, frustration and embarrassment could surface. I feel my shoulder muscles toughen from the anxiety of just writing about this. It is not uncommon for us to want to relay to others how catastrophic our day was – perhaps just to let it out of our system or maybe for a little sympathy.
But when it’s all said and done, what can we learn from the glitches that throw a wrench into our routine , what’s the up side? I know, what you want to say, I can hear what you are thinking – it was a terrible day – how can there possibly be an upside? The upside is that you still got to work on time despite over sleeping, you finally got around to getting the car fixed, ( something you’ve been putting off for a while) and you learned that the first place that you should always look for your glasses is on top of your head. In situations like these we can get over the effects of a bad day pretty quickly if we can reframe our thoughts in order to figure out what we learned and challenge ourselves to find the “up side’ of the situation. The examples above are issues which although annoying are relatively minor. When a major crisis occurs it can impact your life forever making it very difficult to find anything good to hold onto, however, it can be done.
When we are faced with upheavals in life, our emotions become askew. Here are a few general tips for handling challenging situations:
- We always have a choice about how we view and/or respond to a situationOur view of a situation at the time it occurs may change as we develop more insight about what occurred.
- focus on the things that you have control of and let go of the what you can’t control.
- strive for a positive outcome.
- Allow yourself to feel – let your emotions out.
- A good cry can work wonders
- Take care of yourself emotionally and physically.
- Don’t let a bad situation lower your self-esteem.
- Use affirmations such: ” I am a good person”
- Separate you are as a person, from the situation
- Use creative problem solving skills
- channel your knowledge, skills ands abilities to defuse the situation.
- Rely on your friends, family or other support systems.
- someone to hold your hand, give you or hug or just listen can help immensely.
And most importantly, ask yourself: “WHAT’S THE UP SIDE?”
English: Managing emotions – Identifying feelings (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
In every difficult situation is potential value. Believe this, then begin looking for it. Norman Vincent Peale
In times like these it is good to remember that there have always been times like these. Paul Harvey
It’s not the situation, but whether we react (negative) or respond (positive) to the situation that’s important. Zig Ziglar