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We all have challenging days when nothing seems to go right.  Days that we don’t want to look in the mirror let alone get out of bed.  Days wrought with pressure over an impending decision or event. Days that are just plan exasperating.   So what’s the answer?  There are many ways to handle pressure, reduce stress and boost our self-esteem, but for purposes of this post I am going to focus on only one: using affirmations.    According to best selling author, Louise Hay “affirmations are small but key positive messages to the self. They are used as reminders, helping to keep positive messages at the forefront of our consciousness.”   Furthermore, Hay states that “affirmations are a very powerful tool in supporting  positive thinking and are very effective in changing life patterns and perspectives.”

So what exactly is an affirmation.  There are two important guidelines for writing affirmations:  they must be positive statements and they must be written in the present tense.   Here are a couple of examples of affirmations  which are positive and in the present tense   

lady in mirror

I am a good to my friends.

I am a positive person.

Affirmations can be tailored to any situation, feeling, relationship etc.  They can be in written form, said aloud or visualized in your mind.   It is helpful to repeat the statement often as the more often you use an affirmation, the more effective it will be in changing your thinking.

So if you have days that we don’t want to look in the mirror – look in that mirror & say:  I am beautiful!   If your day is wrought with pressure over an

impending decision – tell yourself- I am capable handling whatever arises.   Or you are just having a bad day – you can say:  I will can handle trying times.

There are many web resources with affirmations.  Here are a few that I found.

A Place for the Heart – Louise Hay Affirmations

Prolific Living

Self -help and Self-development.com

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Energy & Emotions IV: What’s the Up Side?

I think it is safe to say that when we wake up each the morning, we have some sense of how the next twenty-four hours will transpire.   Most days are pretty routine.   We are startled awake by the sound of the alarm buzzing in our ear, a radio announcer discussing the traffic or in my case a whining dog.   Whether we are ready to or not, it’s time to get up and start the day.    Morning  routines can become somewhat robotic in nature: go to the bathroom, shower, dress, eat breakfast and head out the door to work.  Obviously,  the order in which these tasks are done varies among persons and may include other items such as working out, packing a lunch or walking the dog.    We depend on these routines to jump-start our day and energize us for the hours ahead.   No matter how mundane the routine may be, we can depend on it.

Unfortunately, there are also those days that don’t go quite so smoothly, we over sleep,  the car won’t start or we can’t find our glasses.  Everyone has had those days, they tend to make one feel somewhat “off'” all day.   Routines can provide us with so much comfort, that any diversion from  routine can lead to a host of emotions.  Emotions such as anger, frustration and embarrassment could surface.   I feel my shoulder muscles toughen from the anxiety of just writing about this.   It is not uncommon for us to want to relay to others how catastrophic our day was – perhaps just to let it out of our system or maybe for a little sympathy.

But when it’s all said and done, what can we learn from the glitches that throw a wrench into our routine , what’s the up side  I know, what you want to say, I can hear what  you are thinking – it was a terrible day – how can there possibly be an upside?  The upside is that you still got to work on time despite over sleeping,  you finally got around to getting the car fixed, ( something you’ve been putting off for a while) and you learned that the first place that you should always look for your glasses is on top of your head.   In situations like these we can get over the effects of a bad day pretty quickly  if we can reframe our thoughts in order to  figure out what we learned and challenge ourselves to find  the “up side’  of the situation.     The examples above are issues which although annoying are relatively minor.  When a  major crisis occurs it can impact your life forever making it very difficult to find anything good to hold onto, however, it can be done. 

When we are faced with upheavals in life, our emotions become askew.  Here are a few general tips for handling challenging situations:

  • We always have a choice about how we view and/or respond to a situationOur view of a situation at the time it occurs may change as we develop more insight about what occurred.
    •  focus on the things that you have control of  and let go of the what you can’t control.
    • strive for a positive outcome.
    • Allow yourself to feel – let your emotions out.
    • A good cry can work wonders
    • Take care of yourself emotionally and physically.
  • Don’t let a bad situation lower your self-esteem. 
    • Use affirmations such: ” I am a good person”
    • Separate you are as a person, from the situation 
  • Use creative problem solving skills
    • channel your knowledge, skills ands abilities to defuse the situation.  
  • Rely on your friends, family or other support systems.
    • someone to hold your hand, give you or hug or just listen can help immensely.

And most importantly, ask yourself: “WHAT’S THE UP SIDE?”

English: Managing emotions - Identifying feelings

English: Managing emotions – Identifying feelings (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


In every difficult situation is potential value. Believe this, then begin looking for it.  Norman Vincent Peale

In times like these it is good to remember that there have always been times like these. Paul Harvey

It’s not the situation, but whether we react (negative) or respond (positive) to the situation that’s important. Zig Ziglar 



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