A few months ago, I saw the movie: Perks Of Being A Wallflower, based on the novel by Stephen Chbosky . According to Moviefone: “ ‘The Perks of Being a Wallflower‘ is a moving tale of love, loss, fear and hope–and the unforgettable friends that help us through life.” There are many relate-able moments in the film, however there is one line in the picture that continues to resonate in my head. The line is: “We accept the love we think we deserve.” As I left the theater, I repeated that line to myself – over & over, like a mantra, lest I forget it. In my mind, this quote leads to a plethora of questions, not directly related to the type of love which comes from relationships, but more so about self-love.
Here are some of the questions that I reflected on:
How do I view myself :
- as a person?
- as a friend?
- as a professional?
- as a mother, daughter sister, wife, aunt or grandmother (or any other roles)?
How happy am I with:
- who I am?
- what I stand for?
- what I believe, value or hold dear?
- how I relate to others, whether or not they play an integral role in my life?
What do I think I deserve:
- from others?
- from myself?
- from the world around me?
Am I being realistic as to what I deserve?
- Do I deserve more than I think I do?
- Am I satisfied with all that life has to offer me?
How would you answer these questions?
Is there a correlation between how you see yourself & what you think you deserve?
Do you think you deserve more love than you have allowed yourself to partake?
There is a lot to glean from this quote. What additional questions would you ask yourself?
The Perks of Being a Wallflower (missreadreviews.com)
Book vs. Movie: The Perks of being a Wallflower (thepunktheory.wordpress.com)