In Part I of Energy and Emotion , I discussed ways to delegate our personal energy in order to make the best of each day. Part II focuses on the allocation of energy in relationships and provides suggestions for self-care. The impetus behind the articles were twofold: first of all , to discuss the importance of being mindful of how much personal energy we have within ourselves on a given day and secondly, our ability to decide how we want to use that energy. In Part III – I would like to focus on some of the emotions that have a tendency to zap our energy and may contribute to a plethora of physical symptoms. I like to call them wasted emotions because in general they are not readily solvable and they can use up a lot of our emotional energy.
The focus of this entry is on one emotion: worry. Worry by itself can lead to a host of other emotional situations such as: anxiety, stress, guillt, tension, panic, and fear which, in turn can further cause a number of physical symptoms. Dwight Eisenhower said: “Worry’ is a word that I don’t allow myself to use”. Wikipedia’s definition of worry is : Give way to anxiety or unease; allow one’s mind to dwell on difficulty or troubles, a state of anxiety and uncertainty over actual or potential problems.
So, what’s wrong with worrying? Sometimes nothing, as in a situation of immediate danger. In these cases, our fight or flight response sends us into action to handle the situation. There are situations when it is considered natural to worry or be anxious such as a job interview, taking a test or entering a new situation. “A little anxiety is helpful. It can help you get ready for an upcoming situation.” Unfortunately worrying, in general is counterproductive and can use of tremendous amounts of our energy. So why is worry counterproductive? William Ralph Inge says “Worry is interest paid on trouble before it comes due.” To understand this better, try visualizing yourself in a situation which causes you to worry. What thoughts are going through your head? Perhaps, you are praying for a situation to go your way, maybe you are wondering if something negative or bad will occur in the near future or you may be concerned about how you will feel or how others treat you or will respond in a given situation. The possibilities for worry are endless. The answers are few to none.
Worry involves fear or curiosity about the unknown. Unfortunately the anxiety, depression, fears etc. we feel when we worry may end up as being for no reason. In otherwords, most worry does not solve anything because we don’t have the answers that we need to quell our concerns. Another consequence of excessive worry is the development of a wide variety of physical conditions, some of which can be serious. Every body system can be compromised by our emotional state. Aa list of these conditions can be found at http://www.webmd.com/balance/guide/how-worrying-affects-your-body . So what can we do to diffuse excessive worry. Here are some suggestions:
Postpone worry to prevent dwelling on it all day
- List any worries that arise during the day and avoid thinking about them.
- Plan a ” worry period” at the end of each day (avoid bedtime). during the worry period
- Analyze your worry list
- cross off the items that no longer worry you.
- evaluate the items that are still a problem
- Decide if the remaining problems have solutions which you have control over.
- If yes, start problem solving to find a solution
- If no, recognize that there’s no current solution and then let it go.
Accept uncertainty , there may be nothing you can do to immediate relinquish your worries
Let your emotions out
- Talk about it to someone
- Cry aloud
- Journal or write about your worries
Find ways to Relax
- Meditate or use guided imagery
- Think positive
- Use Affirmations
- Do something you love to do
So, next time you start to worry, ask yourself this question: Is this something I want to use up my energy supply for?
“A day of worry is more exhausting than a week of work.” John Lubbock </blockquote
more quotes about worry http://wp.me/P2Cf41-17
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- The Worry Cure (psychologytoday.com)