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Quote: The Earth


 “The earth’s ground, dirt, grass, water, and sand can help ground you, putting you in touch with its nurturing energy and natural frequencies.” – Elaine Wilkes

Photo:  View from the top of Anderson Park by Lori  Katz


14 Ways to Increase Your Happiness By Kristin Barton Cuthriell (repost)

After a Long Hiatus, I am back ready to share information with you starting with the great article which follows:

14 Ways to Increase Your Happiness By Kristin Barton Cuthriell

Do you want to increase your happiness? We all know that we can’t be happy all of the time, but there are things that we can do to improve our overall sense of well-being. Take a look…

  • Choose your battles carefully. Some battles really aren’t worth fighting. Ask yourself, “What am I fighting for?” If you discover that the battle has more to do with your ego than anything else, it may not be worth the fight. You may want to take the higher road
  • Volunteer to help people or animals. Giving to others is one of the best things that you can do for yourself.
  • Balance work, rest, and play. Make sure your “achieving” and “being” scale is balanced. When one side becomes too heavy, you will begin to spiral down.
  • Listen to music that lifts your spirit. Find something that sings to your soul.
  • Exercise. People who do not exercise daily do not know how good they could feel. Exercise improves your health… physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Exercise gives you positive energy in all areas of your life.
  • Pray / meditate. Ask for help. You are not alone. Calm yourself with prayer.
  • Spend time with positive uplifting people. If you want to feel inspired, don’t spend too much time with people who drain your energy. Remember that passion for life is contagious.
  • Be assertive in your communication. Say yes when you mean yes and no when you mean no. Living with integrity brings peace. Being overly passive breeds resentment and self-contempt.
  • Set daily goals. Break large goals into small manageable parts. Goal accomplishment has been associated with higher levels of hope and reduced risk of disease.
  • Identify, write out, and try to understand your self-sabotaging behaviors. What are your self-defeating behaviors? Why do you do these things? What is the reward? Are these behaviors working for you?
  • Practice Gratitude. Make a list of at least two things everyday that you are thankful for. Try to find something positive about every person you meet.
  • Respect your own feelings. Observe your feelings without putting a harsh judgment on them. They just are. Remember your feelings and your behaviors are two different things. You do not have to act on all of your feelings.
  • Refuse to spend too much energy trying to change others. (Especially people who have no desire to change themselves.) You can spend the rest of your life trying to change someone who doesn’t want to change. The only person that you have control to change is yourself.
  • Lay off the sweets. Eat your fruits and veggies. It really does improve the mood.




We all have challenging days when nothing seems to go right.  Days that we don’t want to look in the mirror let alone get out of bed.  Days wrought with pressure over an impending decision or event. Days that are just plan exasperating.   So what’s the answer?  There are many ways to handle pressure, reduce stress and boost our self-esteem, but for purposes of this post I am going to focus on only one: using affirmations.    According to best selling author, Louise Hay “affirmations are small but key positive messages to the self. They are used as reminders, helping to keep positive messages at the forefront of our consciousness.”   Furthermore, Hay states that “affirmations are a very powerful tool in supporting  positive thinking and are very effective in changing life patterns and perspectives.”

So what exactly is an affirmation.  There are two important guidelines for writing affirmations:  they must be positive statements and they must be written in the present tense.   Here are a couple of examples of affirmations  which are positive and in the present tense   

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I am a good to my friends.

I am a positive person.

Affirmations can be tailored to any situation, feeling, relationship etc.  They can be in written form, said aloud or visualized in your mind.   It is helpful to repeat the statement often as the more often you use an affirmation, the more effective it will be in changing your thinking.

So if you have days that we don’t want to look in the mirror – look in that mirror & say:  I am beautiful!   If your day is wrought with pressure over an

impending decision – tell yourself- I am capable handling whatever arises.   Or you are just having a bad day – you can say:  I will can handle trying times.

There are many web resources with affirmations.  Here are a few that I found.

A Place for the Heart – Louise Hay Affirmations

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Quotes of the Week – April 7, 2018 Balance

“There are no choices that are really a detour that will take you far from where you’re wanting to be — because your Inner Being is always guiding you to the next, and the next, and the next. So don’t be concerned that you may make a fatal choice, because there aren’t any of those. You are always finding your balance. It’s a never-ending process.”  Abraham Hicks

“Knowledge stands on one leg, and requires balance and attention.
Truth stands on its own two strong legs, and requires no proof.”  Robert Mills

“It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it”. Lena Horne

“If we think we are tired or ill, it is only because we have done something to unbalance the bodily conductivity of the universal electric current which motivates it.”  Walter Russell

“Achieve balance between what you want and what you have and you possess all the wealth you need.”   Unknown

“Enduringly successful people, many of whom live a life that’s a gift to the world, don’t raise balance as a major issue—not because they had it masterfully handled, but because they were all busy doing what mattered to them”.  Jerry Porras

“If you are tired or pained in any part of the body and you have not over-exercised it, then you will know that some part of your thinking may not be balanced.” Alice Steadman

Quotes for the Week of 3/24/2013 Nature & Spring

292141_10150808936016342_525712734_nI know that I am not the only person who is anxiously awaiting the real spring, not the calendar spring which  has now passed.  Don’t get me wrong, I love winter – to a point, but enough is enough. Spring, to me is more than just warmer weather – it generates a plethora of  feelings such as:  freedom, growth, rebirth & joy.   Walking  outside in nature both clears my mind and inspires me at the same time.  As I walk,   I savor the beauty around me, feel gentle breezes in my hair and enjoy watching the birds and squirrels play  in the trees.    It calms my spirit just to think about it.  

Since we can only hope for spring to come ASAP, why not celebrate the season with some quotes in an attempt to lure it out of hiding.

“Look deep into nature, and then you will understand everything better.” Albert Einstein          

                                                                                                                                                                                                           Road Through Forest

“Nature has been for me, for as long as I remember, a source of solace, inspiration, adventure, and delight; a home, a teacher, a companion.”   Lorraine Anderson thinker


“Nature does nothing uselessly.”  Aristotle    302619_10150466403847008_516292007_10258557_585108422_n


“Earth laughs in flowers.”  Ralph Waldo Emerson  Butterflies and Spring

“This is the foundation of all. We are not to imagine or suppose, but to discover, what nature does or may be made to do.” Francis Bacon

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Quotes for the Week of 3/17/2013 – on Sharing

Being part of a support group or a coaching group requires the sharing of thoughts with each other.  Here are some quotes about sharing.  

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“If you have knowledge, let others light their candles in it.”    Margaret Fuller

“It takes a lot of courage to show your dreams to someone else.  Erma Bombeck

“You are forgiven for your happiness and your successes only if you generously consent to share them.”  Albert Camus

“Share your knowledge. It is a way to achieve immortality.”  Dalai Lama XIV

“Sharing will enrich everyone with more knowledge.”  Ana Monnar

“Learning, without any opportunities to share what we’ve learned, is a little like cooking for ourselves; we do it, but we probably won’t do it as well.” Mike Schmoker

“Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half sorrow. ”  Swedish Proverb 

“An unshared life is not living. He who shares does not lessen, but greatens, his life.”  Stephen S. Wise

“We confirm our reality by sharing.”     Barbara Grizzuti Harrison

Ten Facts About Group Coaching

paperdollsOne way that someone can reap the benefits of a  Life Coach is in a group setting.  

I have listed ten facts about group coaching to help you decide if it’s right for you.

1. Member Focused:  the agenda of each session is decided by the members of the group based on their interests and needs.

2 Member Driven:  the coach serves in a facilitator role – monitoring the workings of the group such as: equal sharing among attendees,  following a prescribed format and time keeping.

3. No formal content is presented to the group members:  the coach will not present information during the group session unless it is explicitly requested b the members.

4. The  atmosphere is favorable for sharing. Members are encouraged to:  

5. Members may be pre-screened to fit the following characteristics:

  • the attendees share  similar interests & goals.
  • members are ready and willing to shared pertinent  knowledge and experiences with the other group members.
  • member is good at listening to what others have to share.
  • Attendees are ready to work towards  individual and group goals.

 6.  There are personal advantages to being part of a coaching group.

  • helps pave the way towards self transformation.
  • group input can help to clarify an indivual’s issues and concerns.
  • All members can learn more about t  themselves by listening to others.

7.     Financial Advantages

  • group coaching costs are  lower in price than individual coaching
  • many groups are conducted by teleconference therefore saving on the cost of travel

8.   Group members must agree to the following:

  • Take personal responsibility for:
    • acceptable attendance.
    • group participation.
    • their communication/interactions with other members.
  • Maintain accountability by
    • following through with work on individual goals.
    • completing group assignments.
  • A willingness to contribute to discussions
  • A genuine interest in attaining personal goals.
  • A readiness to look deep inside themselves.
  • The ability  to listen and contribute without judging.
  • Commitment to  maintaining confidentiality.
  • Eager to share insights and experiences with others.

9.    Groups are small in size with no more than 8 people.

10.  Groups may be held face to face or by teleconference.

New groups forming now!  To learn more about the groups offered by A Balancing Act – Click here

To sign up, please send an email to Lori.abalancingact@gmail.com

“We confirm our reality by sharing.” – Barbara Grizzuti Harrison

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Quotes of the Week 3/10/13 – On Looking Inside Yourself

On Looking Inside Yourself


“Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams, who looks inside awakes.” ~ Carl Jung

Everything in the universe
is within you.
Ask all from yourself.”

“The world ‘out there’ won’t change until the world ‘in here’ does.” – Deepak Chopra

Our life is the creation of our mind.” – Buddha 

“A man is what he thinks about all day long.”   – Ralph Waldo Emerson

“When we find our core certainty within, then we no longer look for certainty outside.  The unfathomable nature of the ever-changing world ceases to be a source of anxiety and instead is a source of joy and adventure.” ~Deepak Chopra

Quotes of the Week 3/3/13

More Quotes from Stephen  Chomsky’s   The Perks if Being a Wallflower. 

“So, I guess we are who we are for a lot of reasons. And maybe we’ll never know most of them. But even if we don’t have the power to choose where we come from, we can still choose where we go from there. We can still do things. And we can try to feel okay about them.”

“I am very interested and fascinated how everyone loves each other, but no one really likes each other.”

“Enjoy it. Because it’s happening.
“This moment will just be another story someday.”
“I am both happy and sad at the same time, and I’m still trying to figure out how that could be.”
“Sometimes people use thought to not participate in life.”
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Getting What You Deserve

A few months ago, I saw the movie: Perks Of Being A Wallflower, based on the novel by Stephen Chbosky  .   According to Moviefone:   “ ‘The Perks of Being a Wallflower‘ is a moving tale of love, loss, fear and hope–and the unforgettable friends that help us through life.”   There are many relate-able moments in the film, however there is one line in the picture that continues to resonate in my head.  The line is: “We accept the love we think we deserve.”     As I left the theater,  I repeated that line to myself – over & over, like a mantra, lest I forget it.   In my mind, this quote leads to a plethora of questions, not directly related to the type of love which comes from relationships, but more so about self-love.

Here are some of the questions that I reflected on:

How do I view myself :

  • as a person?
  • as a friend?
  • as a professional?
  • as a mother, daughter sister, wife, aunt or grandmother (or any other roles)?

How happy am I with:

  • who I am?
  • what I stand for?
  • what I believe, value or hold dear?
  • how I relate to others, whether or not they play an  integral role in my life?

What do I think I deserve:

  • from others?
  • from myself?
  • from the world around me?

Am I being realistic as to what I deserve?

  • Do I deserve more than I think I do?
  • Am I satisfied with all that life has to offer me?

How would you answer these questions?

Is there a correlation between  how you see yourself  & what you think you deserve?

Do you think you deserve more love than you have allowed yourself  to partake?

There is a lot to glean from this quote. What additional questions would you ask yourself?


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